One of the 4 jobs I currently do is Life Coaching. I got into it a few years ago because of my master coach. She inspired me because her approach was so much about doing. There was always homework, always actions I had to be proving. It made a lot of sense to me. I had previously spoken to life coaches who did a lot with manifesting, writing things down, meditating. It just wasn’t my thing, it works for some people, but at the end of the day (and I am fully aware I may get some heat for this), the only thing that gets you results is DOING!
Yes, I read “The Secret” back in the day, I made a manifesting/dream board or whatever it was called. Guess what, it didn’t work, getting off my ass and working my ass off worked! A dream board helps with one thing, it acts as your task list. I will tell my clients to make them only as a task list because I for one am an image person, so I will have people make it in a checklist format. My way of coaching is in boot camp style. I am a realist. I do not believe in meditation, I do not believe in consistently talking about your problems. I work with your personal issues within the first month you work with me and then…WE TAKE ACTION! If you are rolling your eyes right now and thinking I am being judgy or harsh, I am not. Let me be clear on one thing, I never form an opinion or voice my convictions unless I have experienced what I am talking about. People come to work with me on their lives and careers because they want to see results and they are tired of trying to manifest what they want to happen. Get out and do it, don’t be afraid to fail. In fact I want you to fail so that you can see what it feels like and show yourself your a badass mother fucker who doesn’t take no for an answer.
My approach doesn’t work for everyone, but for those that like this bootcamp, no bullshit, realistic approach, it works wonders, it builds confidence, it turns you into someone who doesn’t have fears or a bunch of insecurities. You turn into a boss. I am not just saying this, I know this, because I once had a lot of fears, but I don’t anymore. If I want something I go get it, all in legal positive ways obviously!!! I knew what some of you might have been thinking, NO, I wouldn’t rob a bank if I wanted money, turn off that damn movie mind!
You want a new job, you hate Mondays? Go out and find your dream job, fucking work for it. Easier said than done right? Well if you want easy, go move to Costa Rica, because life and getting what you want isn’t easy, but I personally think that’s what makes it fun. That’s also something I teach, the thrill, the excitement and satisfaction of getting what you want through all the blood and sweat. It truly makes you feel like a badass. You want that vacation? Go out and fucking get it, do the research, make calls, get friendly over the phone with the front desk of the hotel, keep calling, find those deals. It will happen. You want that house? Go get your credit looking flawless, get that loan, make your bank trust your hustle. You want kids? Oh I hear the excuses already, this is the one thing I constantly hear about when I work with both single men and women. YES, with the men as well. I am just going to throw out a list and you can do the research. Adoption, cryobanks, surrogates, dating… I despise whining and feeling sorry for yourself, go get it if you want it!
I am happy to help be a trainer so to speak, a life coach, your bootcamp instructor, mentor or whatever terms makes you feel more comfortable. I want a real life approach to how you become happy, badass and successful. So your yoga and meditation might be helping your mood and you should definitely keep doing it, but come to me for the action in the lists and manifesting you have been doing, I want to see these lists sweat!
*Don’t forget to go and vote on Tuesday!